How to Make a Parenting Plan
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What does a parenting plan include?
The two main parts of a parenting plan (also called a custody and visitation plan) are:
- Parenting Schedule: sets out specific days and times for children to be with each parent; who will transport the children, where will the transfer happen, who will pay for any travel necessary for visits.
- Decision Making: sets out how decisions will be made with respect to health, education and social issues for children. Will the parents make them together or should one parent have decision making authority?
Custody and visitation orders also cover areas such as travel, conditions for visitation, PFDs, taxes, and health insurance.
Using the resources listed below, you may want the help of a counselor, mediator or co-parenting coach to develop a schedule that works for your family.
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How does a judge decide whether to order a specific parenting plan?
The court determines custody and visitation according to what arrangement is in the child’s best interests. To figure this out, the court considers a series of factors called the "best interest" factors which include:
- the physical, emotional, mental, religious, and social needs of the child;
- the capability and desire of each parent to meet these needs;
- the child's preference if the child is of sufficient age and capacity to form a preference;
- the love and affection existing between the child and each parent;
- the length of time the child has lived in a stable, satisfactory environment and the desirability of maintaining continuity;
- the willingness and ability of each parent to facilitate and encourage a close and continuing relationship between the other parent and the child, except that the court may not consider this willingness and ability if one parent shows that the other parent has sexually assaulted or engaged in domestic violence against the parent or a child, and that a continuing relationship with the other parent will endanger the health or safety of either the parent or the child;
- any evidence of domestic violence, child abuse, or child neglect in the proposed custodial household or a history of violence between the parents;
- evidence that substance abuse by either parent or other members of the household directly affects the emotional or physical well-being of the child;
- other factors that the court considers pertinent.
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How does a judge decide the parenting plan if a parent wants to move out of state?
The judge considers all of the legal factors to decide what parenting plan is in a child’s best interests. One factor is 'the length of time the child has lived in a stable, satisfactory environment and the desirability of maintaining continuity." This involves considering both the importance of staying in the same place and maximizing stability of the child’s relationships.
In cases where a parent wants to move with the child and the other parent wants the child to stay in the same community where he/she has been living, the judge uses a 2-step process to determine the best interests of the child.
- Is the planned move legitimate? (The reason for the move can’t be to deny the non-moving parent time with the child. Some examples of legitimate reasons may be a better paying job, enrolling in a special education program, family support.)
- If the move is legitimate, the judge considers the best interest factors to determine the arrangement that serves the best interests of the child. This requires looking at the consequences to the child both:
- if the parent leaves with the child, and
- if the parent leaves without the child.
So the judge is supposed to look at the effect on the child if the child moved with the parent and if the child stayed without the parent. The court considers "best interest" factors which include:
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the physical, emotional, mental, religious, and social needs of the child;
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the capability and desire of each parent to meet these needs;
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the child's preference if the child is of sufficient age and capacity to form a preference;
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the love and affection existing between the child and each parent;
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the length of time the child has lived in a stable, satisfactory environment and the desirability of maintaining continuity;
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the willingness and ability of each parent to facilitate and encourage a close and continuing relationship between the other parent and the child, except that the court may not consider this willingness and ability if one parent shows that the other parent has sexually assaulted or engaged in domestic violence against the parent or a child, and that a continuing relationship with the other parent will endanger the health or safety of either the parent or the child;
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any evidence of domestic violence, child abuse, or child neglect in the proposed custodial household or a history of violence between the parents;
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evidence that substance abuse by either parent or other members of the household directly affects the emotional or physical well-being of the child;
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other factors that the court considers pertinent.
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How does domestic violence affect a parenting plan?
A history of domestic violence by one or both parents can affect the parenting plan for your children. The law presumes that the parent who committed the domestic violence might not get custody and visitation unless he or she meets certain requirements. These may include completing a multi-week batterer’s intervention or substance abuse treatment program.
To find domestic violence, the law does not require the existence of a protective order or criminal charges. The divorce or custody judge may ask about domestic violence. Testimony about domestic violence by a parent or other witnesses can be enough information for the judge to find a domestic violence history that would impact the parenting arrangement.
Even if the parents agree on a shared parenting schedule, the judge may not order it if the judge finds there is a history of domestic violence.
If the judge does not find a history of domestic violence that would restrict how a parent’s parenting time will happen, you can still ask for specific provisions to structure the parenting time so that it is safe. Some options are described below.
If there has been domestic violence, you should talk with a lawyer about how this law will impact your case.
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What are some options to structure parenting time so that it is safe?
The judge will only know about your safety concerns if you state them in the documents you file and when you talk in court. Describe your concerns to the judge if you have concerns about:
- the child(ren)’s safety when in the other parent’s care, or
- your safety when interacting with the other parent.
If the judge is going to allow the other parent to have parenting time with the children, you can suggest ways to address your concerns. Some options include:
- no drugs or alcohol prior to or during the visits,
- drug or alcohol testing and/or treatment,
- no overnight visitation,
- no excessive discipline or spanking,
- no emotional abuse such as cursing at or name calling,
- not saying anything bad about you to or in front the children or letting anyone else do so,
- exchanges only at public or specified places,
- supervised exchanges by willing and available third party who you trust,
- parenting time only occur in a public or specified place,
- supervised parenting time with a willing and available third party who you trust,
- no contact between the children and specific individuals you are concerned about, or
- no inappropriate exposure to adult activities such as pornography.
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What if I think the other parent should have no contact with our child(ren)?
If you think the other parent should not have contact with your children, you will need to convince the judge that it is in the children’s best interests. Generally, it is unusual for a judge to decide that a parent cannot see their children in a divorce or custody case. There is research that shows it is important for a child to have a relationship with both parents if possible and it can happen in a safe manner. If the judge finds the domestic violence presumption applies, the judge will usually permit supervised contact between the parent and the children while the parent is completing a batterer’s intervention or substance abuse treatment program. After the parent finishes the program and any other requirements the judge ordered, the judge may lift the supervised visitation restriction and allow a different parenting schedule that can include provisions to keep the parenting time safe.
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What resources can help with making a parenting plan?
It takes time and creativity to make the actual schedule, which is what the judge needs to issue a court order. When reviewing your proposal, the judge will want to know how and why the schedule is in your child(ren)'s best interest, which is the legal standard for deciding custody and visitation.
You need to think realistically about your schedule, the other parent’ schedule and your child(ren)’s needs. Don’t be afraid to try a few different options. Sometimes, adjusting just a few hours a week can really help reduce parental conflict.
The following sample scheduling chart can help you work out a weekly plan and calendars help think about the whole year:
- Weekly Scheduling Chart, SHC-1132 Word
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- Yearly calendars
- When thinking about the schedule for school age children, use your the local school calendar so that you'll know vacation dates etc. School calendars are also very handy because they provide a calendar for the entire year, so you can easily count up overnights, which you’ll need to know for child support calculations.
- A 1-page annual calendar without school dates
You can also fill out:
- Best Interests Affidavit, SHC-1125 Word | PDF
This form provides the framework for you to state why the proposed parenting plan is in the child(ren)’s best interests. It goes through each of the best interest factors and has a space for you to write in specific information about how your plan addresses each factor. Remember the court uses the best interest factors to determine the custody and visitation arrangement. The court may use the information you provide in the Best Interest Affidavit in reaching the custody decision. It is an affidavit so it must be signed in front of a notary. The court clerk can notarize the document for free.
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What forms can I use to state what schedule is in our child(ren)’s best interest?
There are different forms that you can use to say what schedule you want. They include the basic topics that should be covered in court ordered plans. Read through to see which form will help you to organize your thoughts and develop a plan that will work:
- Custody & Visitation Plan (long), SHC-1120
Word | PDF
- Custody & Visitation Plan (short), SHC-1122 Word
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If both parents agree:
- Parenting Plan Agreement & Order, SHC-1128 Word | PDF
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Rev. 9 April 2019
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